Being Dad

Being a Dad is both a gift and a challenge.  I have learned over the years that you do not try and compare mom vs. dad, only in that you both are parents.  However, you are very important to the raising of a child, let alone more than one.

The first and most important task of being a dad is that you love mom!  Yes, that’s right, you love mom with all you got, first because she is your partner, and second because, well, she is the mother to the children you share.

The second most important task of being a dad is that you don’t try and be like mom.  Your children probably already have a mom, you do not need to be her.  That does not mean that you don’t do the same things mom does, in fact you better get right in there big and little messes and all!

The third most important task, and this sometimes gets moved up, by way of need, is you are the dad, the father, the man who is husband, parent, guardian, shepherd, role model, teacher, co-conspirator with mom, griller of meats (optional) chauffer of children (non-optional) and of course, co-worker in the development of home and family.  By the way, this is not an all-inclusive list, but you get the point.

Here is the kicker, you will be needed at times you least expect. You will not have a clue if you can handled it, but you will take it on. You might even fail, but you will try to do the best you can. You will do so with love, even if you don’t feel all that lovingly about it.  Why, because you are the dad.

When Jesus was in the greatest of pain and agony, he calls out to his papa, his father, his dad.  Sometimes that is absolutely the hardest thing about fatherhood you see. To watch a child hurting, sick, or maybe even dying and you can’t do a thing.   All you can do is hold the hand of your child.  You try to hold back the tears until you leave the room or they fall asleep.  Then you pray to God that you would take their place.  You are that guy, you are the dad, the father who loves his children with his whole heart.  Blessed Father’s Day and Thank you to all dads!!!!